Marriage counseling & couples counseling
Are you in a sexless marriage? Is your relationship suffering from a lack of sex, or from disappointing sex? Do you and/or your partner feel a lack of desire?
Many couples find sex difficult to talk about and often couples therapy doesn't pay enough attention to the role of sex in intimate relationships. It can help to have a therapist to guide you through conversations about sex that you've been unable to have at home.
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Submitted by Jonathan Sibley on Thu, 02/09/2012 - 11:09
How often have you had a fight that felt like a tug-of-war, with each of you pulling as hard as you can for a different position? If you are like most people, fights like this don't feel good. And, not only do these fights feel particularly bad, but they also are usually quite ineffective at changing either person's mind about the issue at stake. One of the reasons this approach often fails is that each person is fighting so hard for his or her position that the other position seems like it is not being taken seriously.
Submitted by Jonathan Sibley on Wed, 12/07/2011 - 20:38
Just as the message received by your partner may not be the message you thought you were communicating, the message you think you have received may not be the message your partner intended to communicate.
Your partner may say something that leaves you feeling:
- Hurt
- Embarrassed
- Ashamed
- Angry
Your brain may react almost instantaneously, so quickly that it seems obvious that your partner must have known you would react like this and that he or she must have intended you to feel this way. Sometimes, this may be accurate.
Submitted by Jonathan Sibley on Thu, 11/10/2011 - 10:45
One of the most common sources of misunderstandings and fights in the couples I see comes from an assumption that our partner is understanding what we communicate the way we intend them to understand it. You may be familiar with a game called “telephone”, in which a message gets passed orally from one person to another – often, the message has been completely transformed by the time it reaches the last person.
Submitted by Jonathan Sibley on Tue, 10/11/2011 - 14:07
Welcome to the first installment of a new series of articles on how to improve your relationship with someone you love.
How many times have you had a fight about something and thought “Why did we fight about that? Why was it such a big deal?” Often, we wonder why something makes our partner so upset. Sometimes, we wonder why something makes us so upset.
Sadly, between 40 and 50% of new, first marriages are likely to end in divorce, often within 3-5 years. Second and third marriages are even more likely to end in divorce (over 60% for second marriages and over 70% for third marriages).
Fortunately, it is possible to learn new ways to communicate and to deal with differences with your partner. There is growing research about what works for couples that stay together and it's quite possible to apply what we've learned from happy couples.
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It can be hard work creating and maintaining a happy relationship. Couples counseling can help.
Did you know that according to research, even happy couples that stay together have typically not "solved" over 60% of their initial disagreements? However, couples that are happy and stay together do find more effective ways to deal with disagreements and differences and to communicate their feelings.
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