Esther Perel talks about the paradox, for some, of trying to maintain desire in long-term relationships
Emily Nagoski, author of "Come as you are" provides a great introduction to recent research on sexuality
Esther Perel TED Talk on Desire and Relationships
Other resources
TED Talks
A classic TED talk on shame and vulnerability
Esther Perel talks about the paradox, for some, of trying to maintain desire in long-term relationships
Kelly McGonnigal shares ways in which the way we view stress can affect our life expectancy
Goals / Organizational & Personal Change
Kegan and Lahey explain why many efforts at individual and organizational change tend to fail and present a methodology for increasing the likelihood of success. According to the authors, we often... Read more
Carol Dweck presents the important distinction between what she calls the "fixed mindset" and the "growth mindset" through examples in business, relationships, parenting and based on studies done... Read more
Gabrielle Oettingen highlights compelling research showing that just focusing on the positive imagery around succeeding at a goal can actually get in the way of succeeding at the goal. According... Read more
Communication / Conflict management
One of my favorite business books in the past several years. A few simple concepts, well explained, and extremely practical. Here are a few of the key concepts:
- It is useful to... Read more
Unlike many books on conflict, Making Conflict Work doesn't assume that there is a level playing field between participants. Peter Coleman and Robert Ferguson describe 8 types of conflict that... Read more
This book suggests a continuum between those who tend to focus on the power of people and those who focus on the power of ideas. In a balanced way, this book makes a case for paying an appropriate... Read more
Relationships
An easy to follow explanation of attachment styles and why some people seem more prone to distancing and avoiding conflict while others might be more likely to worry when feeling to separate or... Read more
Hold Me Tight was written by Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples. As in EFT, the focus is on what happens to couples when our sense of safety or security in a... Read more
Helen Fisher is a biological anthropologist and has been a consultant for match.com and chemistry.com. Based on her access to the match.com database, she describes for basic personality styles and... Read more
For most people, sex and sexuality are an important piece of their intimate (and sometimes, non-intimate) relationships. By the time a couple comes to therapy, it's not unusual to hear something... Read more
In Wired for Love, Stan Tatkin uses what he calls a "psychobiological" approach to understanding couples, based on a combination of neuroscience, attachment theory, and the biology of human... Read more
For therapists and counselors
In Unlocking the Emotional Brain, Bruce Ecker, Robin Ticic, and Laurel Hulley describe what they call coherence therapy, an approach that looks for why it makes sense, at some level, have the... Read more